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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Life just can't be easy can it...

I'm not even finished coming to terms with one addict in my life...now there are two...

How do I handle this? I don't know what it feels like, I WILL NOT make excuses for her getting a fix with her two babies in the car so she can "feel better".

What do I say? What do I do?

Fuck.

9 comments:

Melanie said...

:o( Unfortunately we can't help those who don't want the help & aren't ready to get clean.

Katie J said...

You can't help! You need to do what is right for you!

She needs to be held accountable for her actions! I am going to a class every week to talk about the impact of an addict what it does to family members, friends etc. and this was our topic on Sunday. Since she is your friend she expects you to do it and it just isn't right!

Monica said...

Oh no! Im so sorry :(

You need to walk away as hard and as harsh as that may seem, you can only help someone so much. Are her kids safe with her? Its a bad situation all around. I would say offer to help her find her own help and if she refuses, out the door you go. You cant risk your own good for someones bad.

Carlos said...

sorry people suck

Fat Daddy said...

good god that is awful...you're sure as shit should not make excuses seeing as how there are kids haning in the balance. I am sorry you have to be n the middle of that shit.

HopeFool said...

Take it from me. I always used to try to give people the loving truth instead of making excuses for them. It never helps.

Listen to your commentary.

I'm sorry...
People suck...
Walk away...

And, I'd add, leave it in God's hands.

Diana said...

This is not going to be nice, and isn't going to be a popular comment...in fact, I'll probably get hate mail. But this is what I think. You need to start hanging around new people, make some new clean and sober friends.

About the gal with kids, turn her in. Kids don't deserve to grow up with that. There are other people that want kids and would give them a good home. It makes me sick what people do to their kids. Should be a law against it...wait, I think there is.

I'm sorry. I know it must hurt you deeply to see people you love do this kind of shit. But honestly you cannot help them. I know this from experience. It's best to just walk away, as much as it hurts, it hurts more to stay around and watch them destroy their lives.

Take care of yourself sweetie.

big_mummy said...

that sucks that the kids are caught up. You have to ask yourself some hard questions i guess but essentially she has to be accountable herself. But if anything happened to the kids could you forgive yourself?? I dont know what drug laws are like there but here social services would certainly take an interest.

Broken YoYo said...

so sorry :-( that is such a shit thing for you to deal with

I feel so sorry for her kids though, are they okay with her, hate to think what impact her actions might have on them.

you're right, there are no excuses, when you're a parent you are God as far as your children are concerned, you are perfect until they grow up and know better and it's up to you to guide and steer them safely through their early years.

your friend needs to grow up and take some responsibility for her actions. As people have said on here, you can't help people if they don't want to be helped, unfortunately it sounds very much like this is the case

maybe the thought of losing your friendship might be enough to jolt her into trying to get help for her addiction, maybe you can talk to her, point her in the direction of someone/where she can go to to get help, but definitely don't make excuses for her... she's a grown woman with real grown-up responsibilities for other people's lives.

If she's not going to get help it's probably best to walk away as otherwise it might just break your heart to sit back and watch that family deteriorate :-(